My New Life As A Homemaker

Written By bryanboy

First things first — thank you so much for being patient with me, my dearest readers. I know I’ve neglected my blog for the past three months because of everything going on in my life. Taping a whole season of a television series was an exhilarating (and educational) experience. Entertainment is a different banana compared to blogging. I really had fun shooting ANTM and I can’t wait to see the episodes for the final cut.

Boxes from Amazon.com in Bryanboy's apartment

In other news, I’ve decided to relocate to New York indefinitely. As much as I love Los Angeles, it’s not really my kind of town. I don’t know how to drive. I also like to drink wine with my meals, thanks very much. God forbid I end up with a DUI the day I get my driver’s license.

It’s fascinating how the past few weeks/months went so fast! I had the option of going back to Los Angeles, or worse, Manila (though I must say I miss my family… a lot), after taping but then I asked myself — what makes sense, after all these years of traveling and working and going to NYC almost every month/every two months? Of course it was a no-brainer! After about fifteen apartment viewings with three brokers, I plonked down what was meant to be my Fall 2012 clothes allowance into my new apartment. I’m finally home where I belong.

Granted, my move was spontaneous and wasn’t planned.

However, I did it like the many millions of people who did it before me — they simply packed their suitcases and moved in a heartbeat.

I had to start from scratch. No joke. I bought everything from furniture and bed linens, towels and shampoo, coffee maker, television and DVD player.

For days, my apartment was empty as hell. It’s still driving me insane. I’ve spent all my life surrounded by stuff — clutter, knick-knacks, flotsam and jetsam… and now I have a 750 square feet-size void to fill. Not an easy task if you ask me.

It also made me realize how I’m able to survive with very little.

Over the past few days:

1. I’ve slept on nothing but a plastic-covered mattress for three days because I had to wait for my bed and my bedsheets to be delivered. Lowest. Point. Of. My. Life. EVER.

2. When my bed arrived, I lifted my super heavy queen-sized mattress spring box and queen-sized Sealy mattress on top of my bed frame. By myself.

3. I assembled two nightstands. By myself.

4. I installed a light bulb to a lamp in spite of my fear of electricity. By myself.

5. I shopped at IKEA and K-Mart. By myself. Don’t judge now. I went to K-mart to buy light bulbs!

6. I went to Macy’s, bought towels and shower curtains, and hung the said shower curtains in my bathroom. By myself.

I cried the first two nights of moving in. I’ll never forget that. I felt so alone and helpless but I soon got over it. Chace Crawford told me he lives a couple of streets down. It was so nice seeing him again. The last time I saw him was in Milan when we had dinner a few months back. I played beer flip cups for the first time ever. Chace and I were on the same time and we won! Sebastian Stan was also there.

Anyway, I’ve been living in my new apartment for a week now and I’m starting to see signs of life. I have two Starck chairs, a bench from Armani Casa, a really comfy bed and two brass Bambi sculptures I got from the Brooklyn Flea Market earlier this afternoon.

What else do I need? The list goes on… a couch, a desk, a coffee table, another chair, maybe a dining table, a chic rug, floor lamps and more table lamps.

A friend of mine who works at Giorgio Armani moved from Milan to New York this March. He told me that he slept on an air mattress for a whole month before he found a bed that he liked. He also told me that it took him about two months before he bought a couch.

A lot of people told me not to rush it — decorating takes a lot of time.

I dunno… I just want a decent place as soon as possible. I want to be able to go inside my home, sit on my couch, put my feet up and tell myself ‘WOW. JUST WOW’.

I don’t know when that’s gonna happen but let me tell you this — independence is such a nice feeling.

41 Comments

  1. I’m sorry you felt low for a bit, hope you’re feeling better now. New York sounds amazing! Hope you have many many adventures. :)

  2. That was me two years ago after college. Take your time so whatever furniture you purchase is because you absolutely love it.

  3. Hahaha, great post Bryan! Congrats to your move :-) I’m surprised you’ve finised filming already, seems so fast!
    Have fun at your new place!

  4. Christina Noir

    As usual, an awesome post :-). Living in NYC myself, I feel for you cuz I know how difficult it is to move to an apartment and have to do everything yourself, since we’re not known for our “friendly neighbors”,lol. The fun part is the decorating and as u say, it takes time. Glad to have you in NYC! Hope to see you at fashion events! :-).

  5. It’s worth it because you feel so effin’ proud when you sit in your couch and look at the wonderful work you’ve accomplished! BEST FEELING ever – “this is MY place bitches!”

  6. It’s the rites de passage for anyone moving to NYC. Arm yourself with a long broomstick just in case your neighbor upstairs has a habit of dragging chains on the floor in the wee hours of the morning :)

  7. How I recognized myself in you! You do not have to rush thinks because the house will talk to you while living in it and says what is needed. Ikea is a great choice everybody go to IKEA even if they say they don’t. I like design but can be mixed with stuff bought in a market, taste is a personal gift. And you have it.

  8. You’re amazing. Congrats on the move! You will look fondly on this struggle and be stronger because of it. Keep on keepin’ on!!!!!

  9. I know how you feel.. it was worse when I moved to Milan not knowing a word of italian. Took me a month to find a decent place to live in and 3 months to connect my internet. They italians are a little set back on connecting their internet. dont even get me started on paying the phone bill/electricity part… HASSEL and 1/2

  10. what an awesome change in your life! i got my own place for seven years now and i am still not finished with everything :D wish i could live in new york like you! wow!

  11. Congratulations on your move. Even though I am in LA and I am very sad that I won’t bump into you on the streets of LA…Not that I ever did, but at least there was a chance =) I feel your pain…moving is the worst thing in my life and I did it quite a few times.. Your blog is fantastic and you seem like a really nice and kind person.

  12. Oh Bryan! Changes, changes..hope that you´ll have beautiful and fully furnished apartment full of happiness soon! :) can´t wait to see the pictures!

    love Katie

    p.s. you should write a book! this article is awesome, I read it without breathing :)

  13. Awww, thanks for the honesty in this post. Moving and new things/places can always be scary, however I know you’ll love NYC…sorry LA didn’t work out for you. I think I am the only NYer who loves LA too

  14. Congrats Bryan!!! This is my next goal precisely, moving to NYC, the best of all is make the things for yourself, at the end is a great satisfaction and proud is the big gift and know that this space is entirely yours to personal taste and unaided. Be self-sufficient is so cool (despite of the lot of work).

  15. Isn’t that exciting, moving and starting a home from scratch, tiring but exciting. Have patience and courage among enthusiasm and joy!

  16. I was told that soon after I moved into a new place also, to just “take your time and decorate”. The problem is I was 6months pregnant. So. Um. No.

    But now that the little one is here and I have the energy again to reorganize ( and go to flea markets trying to find unique furniture which i love)…i wished i didnt rush into getting certain things. But a bed for sure is worth the rush.

    Congratulation on your new place Bryan. And thank you for sharing your highs and low of the past few days.

  17. I love you for being real, Bryan! Moving into a new place by oneself isn’t really a bed of roses and your honesty about it just speaks volumes. I also went through the same situation before and felt so down when I realized how empty my place was, and that I needed to furnish and purchase everything by myself! LOL. But it did get better once you’ve got the essential stuff that you need. Here’s to hoping you’ll be able to settle soon! XOXO

  18. a tv show how fabulous is that! i had an offer in belgium too, don’t know it is the same like yours! it is a reality show about blogging! but i said no to that offer, i was afraid they were going to show a reality that isn’t mine! besides that, i have a job besides blogging! It was a very hard discussion because it can open a lot of doors! anyway can’t wait to see your show and i hope we can follow it somewhere. so keep us posted and congrats with your apartment in nyc

  19. Definitely take your time with it Bryan! When I moved into my first unit I hit IKEA and bought everything in one week, now I hate little details like my plastic bin and clothes baskets but can’t bear to waste the money by replacing them. Congrats, hope we can see some pics when you’re done xx

  20. naww, cheer up baby boy! you’re gonna have that fab apartment everyone’s dying to get into. Trust me x

  21. bryan. you’re so adorable. i love reading your stories. so easy to connect. and its never stupid. at the end there’s always something to think about. kinda like the way every sex and the city episode ends – with something to ponder about.

  22. Roger Velasco

    Loved your post! i love how honest you were about everything it made me feel like i could relate! I myself am planning to move to NYC in October but a lot makes me second guess myself… one of those things is the holidays coming up and spending them alone. Sure, NYC is a big place with lots of people but I’m sure it can get lonely sometimes as a new comer. please keep these post coming about your new york experiences, they are greatly appreciated :)

  23. this is really nice, bryan. totally agree with the last line. ;)
    when you’re done with the deco of your place. post it! everyone would love to see! :)

    xx, i.

  24. Hey Bryan,

    I can definitely relate to what you’re going through. Once upon six years ago, I moved to NYC on a whim. Packed my shit and left. After several breakdowns and the “why did I move heres” sobs, I can honestly say I love it here and feel at home.

    I hope to meet you one day and tell you how fabulous I think you are. Please bring Rumi. My boyfriend and I are huge fan of both of you.

    xx,
    Luna
    theredtrousers.com

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